Thanks K. That is the thing. I do believe some of those things WERE valid for me, in the past. But now the only thing I think I am guilty of is being to accommodating and allowing him to have his cake and eat it, too.
I still don't know where he was when he said he was in Northern Missouri and I saw bank records that he was in Kansas City (ow town). I didn't bring it up b/c I had snooped in his bank statement (to find out his current income, but the other thing showed up) and he doesn't know I looked...
I am drawing up the boundary lines. Plan to let him know today that he needs to find somewhere else to entertain the kids and that 'family' outings will be limited to birthdays/holidays. It will suck SOOOO much for the kids b/c they are used to us doing so much together, but it is screwing with them at the same time...
