So now what do I do? Do I call her about anything? Do I just go about my business? Act like we've never met? With no kids, we don't have a reason to be around each other.
Not sure what to do with this ...
I took the day off because I couldn't deal with being around people. Clearly, not a bad choice considering the events of yesterday. Well, a woman friend of mine came to take me to lunch today. It was all very platonic and friendly. She knows my story and was hoping to just get me out of the house and keep me from crying all day. No biggie. We're walking across the street to my favorite place and my friend leans over and says, "is that her?" She spots the STBXW sitting on a crowded porch at the restaurant with a woman friend. It would have been hard to miss us. We just stroll on by. It was so crowded I didn't see her until we were just about past.
You were married for seven years, no kids. Who made more money? You or her? She may be pushing for you to sign quickly so that you don't pursue her on this issue.
If she made alot more money than you did, it might be worth pursuing.
At it's base this sounds like an attraction issue and the only way to fix that if this is in fact the case is to become more attractive.
Currently you sound needy, insecure, wussy like and that's turning off all of her switches. What possible benefits do you offer her if all you show her is that you are weak and ineffectual?
Is it 100% confirmed that she is seeing other men or specifically another man?
While you have been waiting around and she has been sowing her "wild oats" you have solidified the position that it's ok for you to be a 2nd or 3rd option just in case she ever wants to come back. Not very attractive in the least.
Move on with your life, you should have done this immediately when these problems started, you should have created a fear of loss in her - we all want what we can't have and you only really appreciate something when it's gone or leaving (you can attest to that).
I don't know if it was a smart move to think leaving it up to God to wave his hand and make it all better.
Create a great life for yourself, become the best you can be for yourself, heal yourself and let go of the need to control this situation and her.
You don't need to call her, text her, email her, etc. If she does call, txt or email you, don't reply back, make her contact you several times and tell her you weren't available, out with a friend ("you don't know them") and generally getting a life and enjoying life.