Note what works by watching her actions - what she says and how she acts. You are looking for positive signs, not the reasons behind them. If you do X, and she does Y, and assuming Y was a good thing, then it might be that X was something you would want to try again. Why she does Y doesn't matter and may, or may not be, the result of X. You won't know if X was the reason until you try X again.
Where I got tripped up at first was in trying to read and analyze everything W said/did. That will do nothing but drive you batsh$# and cultivate fear (which I think is the worst enemy).
Look for objective results without concerning yourself with the subjective reasons "why."
