It sounds like things are going well for you and BF. Good for you.
I'm not surprised by your tears, anger and frustration. That seems completely natural. Be sure you don't dismiss it or look to bury it b/c you'll need to work through all of it on your own time when you are ready. You may also be doing this w/out BF's involvement, which is ok too.
Keep going as we're all so happy for you and you do give hope to some of those out there who still have a chance to try and repair their Rs.
Hello Girls!!! I am here and yes, been pretty busy with bf in that department!! He is ok, sometimes has an issue but its not one that is bad for me, its good in fact, hahaaha. So much has happened.. Rob, I'm having to swallow my feelings still, he is depressed again, he was bad Friday and then better by Saturday night, but very very low on Sunday, because...
WE BUMPED INTO HELEN !!!!!! Nightmare. First time I've seen her.
We were in a bar Saturday night with 2 MFs, we were pretty all over each other generally, MF1 called us "lovebirds" more than once. MF2 left at 11 and MF1 was chatting to a girl, so me and bf were then ALL over each other, basically stood snogging, laughing, talking arms all round each other. She must have been watching us. I guess it was good timing for me, but bad for her to see that, she didnt know he'd be in a new relationship so soon. I dont know if she knew it was me, or someone new.
She marched over..glared at me, tapped him on the shoulder,his face fell about 10 miles.. he took a few steps away and she appraretly said "I just wanted to see it was you", he said yes its me..and then she stormed off. He was very upset by it. GUILT!
She looked ok, nice enough, but nothing special. He said it was definetly over with her and "done and dusted" and we talked alot about it considering he's never mentioned her before, but I have to go so more later.
Wow! That sure took some nerve on her part to come up to you guys like that. Seriously, I don't know anyone that would have the nerve to do that!
Well I guess that has opened the window on Helen and you can ask a few things as he starts to come out of this latest low. I am glad you are both doing well otherwise.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I think the Helen sighting was good. Now you can talk about the elephant in the room. It's been sitting there bugging you for so long. And once that's done, I think he is going to feel better, too. I imagine that he has been really worried about how you would react when/if you found out about her. This will be your chance to reassure him.
Elephant in the room? What elephant? The elephant is now dead and burried!!! LOL!!! Great scene, just like in the movies. Sorry, I dont feel compassion for your BF (dont tell him that, I will in September) K
