OK I have a plan. I am more and more tired of not knowing what is going on with this OW and my H's office. After a lot of thinking I am trying to find a moment to address the issue.
Now what I have planned to do: it is a bit over a month since he moved in again and I am waiting for a good moment to ask him to set a time to talk (I always do the talking on my time and place, so asking for an appointment would be a 180). Then I will calmly tell him that I appreciate his efforts and see hopes for our R but that our M cannot heal while that woman is in the picture. I plan to ask him nicely what does he think we can do to achieve that goal and to please keep me in the loop of how things are (another 180: I always tell him what to do and how to do it). I suspect he is going to say "I don't know," in which case I will say "Think about it and let me know", change the subject and not come back to it for another couple of weeks. What do you think? Am I scared of blowing the bubble up but on the other hand I feel I am becoming paranoid...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
