How does your garden grow now that we're having beautiful weather?
I followed the "I'm sure you can acknowledge that I think this divorce is wrong. So while I have decided I will not stand in your way, I've also decided that I will not do anything to facilitate something I feel is so very wrong. Do what's in your heart. I won't resist, but you should know that I won't assist you, either. but my spouse was already secretly living with his now wife.. so there was definitely another person in the picture.
Any interactions with your wife should fall under the "no expectations, no intentions" rule. She asked you to watch the cat. You like taking care of your old buddy. Win/win.
Was your first divorce in CT? My laissez faire approach worked against me. By not emotionally ready for a divorce I ended up on the defensive at every step. My only suggestion is to know your legal rights before you make that statement. If you're in the Fairfield County area I can give you the name of a few attorneys. As you know mediators are the most cost effective and usually the least emotionally draining, followed by collaborative lawyers, followed by.. on and on until you hit a trial.
