Wow, reading this thread reminded me of a lot of things when I did my weekend. As you may have read in another thread I posted Orich, it helped alot. W was pretty much convinced we would never have what we had at that time. She told me she never felt she could be in love with someone else, but it happened. For a while, she despaired over giving that up and openly asked if we would ever feel like that about each other again.

To quote a particularly devastating thing she said when she was giving up: "it's ok. I really love you as in caring for you. Ok if we never get back in love again. It's not like I can't stand your face. I can be not too unhappy if we stayed together" (for the kids she meant). As I posted, the weekend was not a complete overnight miracle making our problems disappear, but it created some critical turning points. The best one was the chaste goodnight kiss after an exhausting day 2, and it actually turned passionate, and she told me she really felt "me" back then.

Sara - haha, sex? you serious? We just felt it was SO inappropriate, although it could have happened that night. We did join our beds together from the first night.

And talking of jokes, when W was all tensed up and nagging to leave when we got there and went to our room to drop off our bags ... I said with a straight face "Umm Look on the bright side. We could go down and see OM is here with his W too". W would not help but crack up and go "oh, GOD!". And we started giggling like kids too. Later she told me how much it meant that I could mention OM without going nuts or angry, and even joke about it.

I'll remember you in my prayers too Orich. Wishing you all the best.


Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.