Yah I would say so esp. if she feels like she is not getting the space she needs. I have only been separated from my W for a month and a half but I have backed way off so there is no telling if she is thinking on those terms or not at this point. The beauty of DBing though is it does talk about detaching and not over-analyzing the WAS behavior. Do not believe anything you hear and a little less that 50% of what you hear. And btw does she take very good care of herself with her lupus? I find it funny that she gets very involved and holds you accountable for your behaviors around your disorder and not pay all that much attention to her illness as she should?? Hmmm.. I'm going to leave that question open ended for now.
