Also, now that I am wearing my wedding ring again and sleeping in my bed...should I just continue with the changes I was working on during MC and be nice, upbeat, and friendly?
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Any thoughts on how I can present this in a way that would not come across to her as pressuring or forcing. I think the next Retrouvaille weekend is August 9th in my area.
First off, work a little on the validating skills. When she says things like, "I don't know if I can forgive" or "I don't know if I can heal my broken heart", I'd suggest you practice, "I can see how it would feel that way", or "I'm sorry you feel that way", or "I'm listening". I don't think saying, "let's try retrouvaille" out of the blue is going to be well received; she first needs to feel a little more safe talking to you. She might do that if you can talk without judgement or defensiveness. Look for an opening today, or casually ask how she's doing...then actually hear her out; this isn't a how ya doing in passing without waiting for a response. Give her your undivided attention if she actually does express her feelings.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
