Home for just two days and he can't resist being abusive:
"He got defensive/mad and took his box of cards and the bible. He said, you can write all the cards in the world but I wanted support from you and instead I got nagging and questioning all my decisions" and he left."
I suppose keeping up the house, yard, and children while he is out of town or doing his own thing is not being supportive. He makes me angry just hearing about him. Blech.
Hello, is this abusive or is this a man who is trying to tell his W how he feels? I've admitted before that I don't read every post on your thread BJ, but after backing up and reading more I see a W that is set in her ways and has a wall up that her H cannot penetrate. You are proceeding with controlling everything you can, including packing him out of the house. Why?
Your H is a highly motivated highly successful guy with a successful career that provides well. Yet in your eyes there is nothing he can do right for you or the kids. Even calling home after a long trip to see if he can help out by bringing food is met with your sarcastic thoughts. I know you didn't say that to him, but your mindset is very negative towards your H.
I know these threads get onesided and please excuse me for offering a different perspective. I offer this opinion because I was there too, when I posted I vented and vented about how horrible my H was to me. Once I posted that I couldn't even fill the coffee pot the right way. A good DB friend came back at me and said 'listen to your H, he is talking to you'. I am saying that to you BJ. If it's not too late, listen to what your H is trying to say to you. If I throw in a few hugs and sweeties will that soften the message?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
