You rebelled - did your spouse just let you rebel and give you time to deal with it, ie. "space", what specifically got you to change your mind to thinking you wanted to be married again? What actions did he do specifically that changed your mind about rebelling and changed your mind to believe that the marriage was worth it?
This question has a HUGE answer but the thumbnail sketch:
To be clear - I did not leave my H as an act of rebellion. I had "potty mouth"(as Puppy says) as a form of rebellion - the 'good girl' thing I referred to earlier. I left b/c I was hurting and being hurt - not to rebel. I came home b/c my H is a DB Iron Man (haha). No seriously --- he made changes that addressed the issues I was cussing about as I walked out of the door. When I got to the point that I believed I could trust the changes I saw, I came home.
I still cuss when I want to.
You regained trust in your husband because he made changes that addressed the issues you had problems with. Were they small changes/big changes? Was it about helping more around the house (maybe i'm blind but I don't ever this as being a dealbreaker), was it about him listening more and talking less (communication issue), was it about emotional support and if so specifically what kind of emotional support, was it an attraction issue: he let himself go and you felt like you were settling?
Yes I'm nosey but you are giving us gold here, it's very good stuff.
