SO, since it is hard to talk with the kids around should I set a time to tell him that he needs to have his own time and space with the kids without me? If I am not the one to initiate it, it will never happen. And I have a history of writing letters so putting it in writing won't be too effective. Think I need to tell him the new rules...?? Guidance please!
How about locking the door so he can't come in?
That works for me but what about our kids? Just pushing them out on the front step when he shows up and locking the door behind them would be a bit traumatizing for them...that is why I was wanting him to know before he spent time with them again. But maybe I am just too soft...
