Yep, another WAW - in last resort

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Lonely wolf,
Sorry for your painful time. The very beginning is always the most painful time. Random thoughts: you're off to a good start with Last Resort. Don't waiver, do more. It takes time so be patient. You've just begun a marathon run. Be the tortoise, not the hare.

Clergydude may well be a positive introspective influence for her. Clergydude will probably not let her get away with venting, staying negative and rewriting your history. At the very least, clergydude may well cancel out in-laws.

Read, read, read. These posts, esp. people who resonate with you. Read Quotes on Divorcebusting (II) near the top of this forum. Perhaps check out WAW Forum for your wife's (probable) pain and situation. Post a lot. Journal. Vent.

Despite the economy and job market, your employment situation and finances and credit may add up to a respect issue on your wife's part, but I'll defer to the ladies on this matter when they post.

Last Resort Techniques is the key for now. It is triage. Take care of yourself physically, mentally, spiritually. You need that now. You need you now.
Strength and courage.