You're right. The only person I can change is myself. I will continue to forge ahead. He's responding positively to the changes I'm making.

If anything maybe he'll learn by observing me that happiness is a choice you make for yourself; you cannot blame another person for your unhappiness!

If I watch him too closely then I'll run the risk of becoming him - judging, blaming etc. And that's just not who I want to be!