the increased frequency of swearing & overall harsh attitude is the by-product of what happens when the WAW loses respect & attraction for their husband. They are no longer attracted to their husbands and treat them harshly to get rid of them & scare them and they do it because it works.
Nope, I wouldn't say that is the case for me. It was rebellion. In my opinion and by most accounts, I had been a good little wife - SAHM, volunteered/worked at our church, homeschooled, good daughter, good sister, errand runner, housekeeper, cook (dinner on a beautifully set table EVERY night)...no mess in my life. Who can live like THAT?????
I didn't walk away b/c I was rebellious - we had troubles - but when I did walk away, I made some sort of connection to that good girl stuff not getting me anywhere in the long run, and I invoked the bad language as a means of displaying that I'd had it with all of that. I could cuss if I wanted to, damnit...so there. Immature rebellion.
So what turned things around for you?
You rebelled - did your spouse just let you rebel and give you time to deal with it, ie. "space", what specifically got you to change your mind to thinking you wanted to be married again? What actions did he do specifically that changed your mind about rebelling and changed your mind to believe that the marriage was worth it?
