WAS seeing reality?

[v1olin]

Ok, I probably need to say something about this affair/ EA thing. When my wife dropped the bomb on me I begged, cried, bla bla, we all did. BUT, I began to do things around the house, yardwork, and being more emotionaly available for my kids. About 4 days into the bomb my wife came home from work and saw me cutting the grass. This sparked some kind of doubt in her and she postponed her L appointment. I later found out from a friend that she went out that day to meet with a "friend" from work to tell him that she could not eat luch with him on fridays anymore. Wouldnt you know, a week goes by and my wife tells me that she has not changed her mind about divorce. This was on a friday, so she could not even go one week without having lunch with this guy! I begged and cried again and was really down until I found the DR book. I found a note in her hand writing that said,


Violin is acting like he "gets it" maybe I should take 2 months to work on it with him before I see you. I look up to you too much to do that to you. I compare Violin to you. Bla bla, does this sound like someone who is just a friend??


The I find out from reading her email that she went to see a movie with him a few days after my birthday. I should add that this guy is married with 2 kids also. I just saw him 2 weeks ago and he was still wearing a wedding ring.


One of my main problems is I have no real proof that he is anything but a friend in her eyes. She and he work for a large pharmasutical company and the pagers and emails are not available to me. The only thing that I have is my memory of that one handwritten note.


Should I expose what I know? She will know that I was snooping at her email then.