I agree. I was prepared to do this for as long as it took. Then there were days I wanted to quit. I have two very good friends who know both of us, me and H and they were the ones who lit the candles for me, when it was really really dark and told me not to quit. But another DBer here has a friend who was the one who went through the crisis and it lasted for years. She said that thinking back to that time, it's very foggy and she's not really sure where the time went and what she was doing then.....sort of like living in a dream. That's why the GALing part of this is so important. Let's say things didn't work out....in the end if you are out there, doing your thing, GALing, you won't look back and say "Man, I wasted all that time" because you didn't. And if it does work out, all the better. But there is no time frame, everyone is different.
