Hi Cas It's a tough old waiting game and I think we're moving slowly towards friends but like you it's a husband I need I've got friends.
I've not read the 5 LL although there's something similar in an English book (am I allowed to say which one?). I've worked out that my husband enjoys quality time - difficult when we're hardly ever together and if we are it's due to a kid related activty. When we first separated I tried to do this but looking back it was obvious that he wasn't ready and it all went wrong.
Problem being I think is that I was separated for several months before I came across DB so my efforts started late. I think that the first few months are crucial before they get used to their single life or become too involved with the OW
