the increased frequency of swearing & overall harsh attitude is the by-product of what happens when the WAW loses respect & attraction for their husband. They are no longer attracted to their husbands and treat them harshly to get rid of them & scare them and they do it because it works.
Ok, that was me too. But there is more to it and I often wonder what "it" is. In my sitch, that was me. I was no longer attracted to H. But, he was spending all our money, took no responsibility, blamed me for everything, was out all the time, exaggerated and lied publicly and privately compared us to people who had about a million times more money than us and he created total chaos when he was home (maybe ADD). My "love" for him was not enough to keep me attracted.
But, I am so able to be attracted to him and do want him (just not all that other stuff, yikes)...
Ok, point being that I didn't really want him to leave me, I wanted him to be present and stable and as coach would say, to "lead."
So, if anything will stand a chance of getting a WAW out of the fog and the hostility and repelling, I bet it is doing just the above. And if not, woohoo for the next lucky lady.
