I had a great day last week volunteering to be one of the den leaders at S8's Cub Scout day camp. All in all he had a great week of fun, and earned some achievements in Archery and Marksmanship that will give him a leg up when he joins back up with his Bear cub den in September.
I got a curious email from xW this evening, two actually. I've been stealthily been keeping tabs on her through mutual contacts as she gathers affidavits against me for the custody hearing. And so I have been stealing myself up against the worst.
Then she sent me the following (paraphrased):
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NCB,
I would be willing to agree to the 7 day schedule by S8's request if you can take the last sep. agreement & take out everything that is not related to the custody schedule including the requirement to live within 10 miles of each other. It would be up to the parent that moved to get the kids to school. We should add in the request for a parenting coordinator to decide whatever the lawyers say they are allowed to decide if we can't agree. Make it very simple, then we can do the child support separately. I'm actually afraid the judge will decide to go with the standard response which would be much less time with you than I am asking for. I would love it, but the kids would be dissappointed. I'm glad you have taken an interest in them. I don't think you should let them watch violent anime from "Adult Swim" That is something a parenting coordinator can help with. I am willing to abide by their decision. I don't want to have to stand before a judge & say negative things about you. I haven't smeared or bashed you to your family & friends & certainly not to your children. I want them to respect all authority & cutting you down undermines their opinion of ALL adults. I WILL NOT do this. If we go to court I will be forced to do this & the idea is repugnant to me. I wanted a very private dissolution of our dead marriage. You refused to agree to that when you quit mediation. I'm making one more attempt to provide for a civil solution.
Thank you.
xW
My first take is that I see her core objective whether she's taking me to court or not is to gain the ability to be able to move off with our sons as she sees fit -- that's what her stated terms concerning the "10 miles" clause is all about. She still fantasizes about moving off to the other side of the county more than an hour away to live with the OM and taking our S's with her.
I now take everything she says with a big grain of salt -- especially when she goes spouting off crazy nonsense like this stuff concerning "Adult Swim" (WTF?) and how she wants to make like she hasn't already slandered me before friends, family and neighbors alike. Yeah, riiiiiiight.
Still, I would like a chance for peace. I would like to avoid this all-consuming and very costly court battle that is approaching. I want to spare our S's the untold acrimony that will ensue once this gets cranked up. But can I really trust her to make good on her word? How long before she's back to screwing me over again and trying to take advantage of my good will? Or even taking me back to court anyway later down the road? There's certainly nothing to stop her from doing that, right?
I don't trust her, and I know I can never really trust her ever again -- not really. Still there comes a point where I have to place my faith in God and allow Him to do His work. This is hard.
I sent a response to xW that I would take this under advisement and talk to my L first.
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And then I got this second email that just really has me wondering what kind of game xW is playing. xW made a request to me to add her as a friend in FB. That is just plain weird. I don't get her.
The suspicious side of me-- the part of me that has now learned to be quite wary of her motives -- thinks that maybe she'd like to be able to get some inside info on what's going on with me through the alternate universe, possibly thinking she can find some dirt on me. I have nothing to hide as it turns out, so I wouldn't care either way except it's the principle of the thing. I know she's a newbie on FB and has no details for me to gather intel from, but my own profile goes back about two years or so.
I've made no response, as this is another thing to ponder over for a while before I do.
