You have to change the expectation that you are dependent on him for your emotional well-being. You need to heal and grow, regardless of him. Even when your senses and intuition tell you that he ought to be the one to make changes, you need to become the fully alive person you are meant to be. This means you have to remove the focus from him, and put it squarely on you. That is also the best thing you can do to help him and your relationship.
Yep. I'm hoping the therapist will help with this. When I spoke with her, she said I am no where near ready to divorce. That felt good, not because I want to save the marriage but because it is the truth. I do not have my bearings enough to put on the big girl panties and keep them on through the divorce process. I have tried to navigate this on my own and I crumble way to easily. I am going to need to be very clear and very decisive and very together to get through this. I mean, if I fall apart this easily, I will look like the nut in our deliberations.
