Why do I end up on your thread when it's late and I know what I'm trying to say, but can't quite get the words the way I want them...
Because you're awesome, that's why. And the words make lots of sense.
I don't really blame myself anymore. I am all about my own mental health though so I want to be fearless and honest in my self-assessment.
I'm so trying not to be hostile right now. The kids have so little clothes and other stuff and H suggested today that I bring some of their things over to his new place. I know this is necessary but a) it means we are going to spend money we don't have for more stuff (or he will) and b) this begins one of the hardest parts for kids, having their things in two places and having resources spread thinner than they already are.
When H talks about selling stuff, I want that money to go to pay bills, not pots and pans...but, really, even with a settlement, he would be able to spend his money as he wishes and buy things for his place. It is more a matter of why isn't it worth it to sell stuff and be proactive for us?? But, realistically, this separation is good in so many ways. I just know that a lot of people want to separate and don't because they can't afford it. How's that for incoherent articulation?
Anyway, perhaps he will get a taste of reality, he sounded pretty down when I spoke to him tonight, kind of like a normal person under the circumstances actually (irrelevant, I know, him, him, him)...
