Ok, time for an update. Things with W and I are still pretty good. She is still convinced we will work things out and is starting to open up even more to me and answer questions I have about OM and the A they had. I can tell its hard for her to do it but she is and it helps to get the truth instead of what I imagined would have happened. Hurts to hear but I need to to start getting past it. We still haven't went to MC together but we are still going to IC separately. W continues to show more affection by the day which is nice. She has started telling me ILY...which was one of my goals. We are actively making plans to move to the east coast next year and are planning and budgeting everything together. Kinda weird how the roles have reversed some for us. After the bomb I went into pursue mode and was asking questions about us and our future...now she asks me questions about "we're gonna make it right?" and other things along those lines. So even though I'm approaching this cautiously and somewhat guarded I'm being drawn more and more to her and we are getting closer and closer. This D isn't busted yet but I think we are off to a good start. So, OM cannot apparently get the hint that it's over between them and is still trying to win her back. She's been ignoring him and has told him it's over repeatedly (a couple of times with me sitting next to her). She hasn't really given him a reason and she has said she shouldn't have to that it's really none of his business now what she is doing but lately he's been texting her and throwing stuff back in her face from when they were together so today she told him that we were back together and that he should respect that and leave her alone. I can't wait to see how that goes over. I offered to go 'talk' to him about it but she really doesn't want me to do that. Other than that I've had a pretty busy couple of weeks at work. I've moved into a new group and have architectural overview of 8 different products now instead of just 1 so I've been putting in some pretty long hours trying to come up to speed. It's a lot of work and more pressure but on the good side my new boss says I can telecommute full time if I want and still work for him when we move back east from our house so that is one less thing to worry about in the move. Things are looking up.....
