I know that there are many couples out there like you Survivor who truly are an inspiration for those of us in my sitch. I truly hope that in the end we can have a marriage like you two have. But as I have stated, I am to the point that I know I can move on and be a better person with or with out my WAW. I have not given up all hope that we can rebuild, but I am fully aware that it is out my hands in doing anything to build it at this point.
Sandi, I am doing pretty well at not holding any bitterness in. There are moments when I do want to punch a wall, or tear my hair out, out of frustration. Mainly because I feel that I did not really do anything wrong (I am aware of the things that I did do) , but I am still blamed by WAW for causing things that I did not cause. I know that it is part of the WAS script much of the time, but it its still frustrating and can cause momentary bitterness and anger. I am getting much better at turning those things back onto W, with the validating, and agreement phrases. Overall, I feel I have made alot of progress, in really what has been quite a short period of time.
