Kat, I appreciate it. I could use a little hammer on the head I suppose. I know that you are very right. I just hold some hope that in time he'll realize he loves me more than he hates the cat. Maybe that will happen, maybe not. Time tells all things. I am giving my best shot that he'll come around, I have nothing to lose. I am very willing to compromise, short of giving up my fur babies. In fact I did make huge compromises while we lived together to make him more comfortable. He never appreciated the changes I made to accomodate his disdain for the cats.
I know it's a mute point now, but if he expected that I would never get another pet in my lifetime, then he had a responsibility to communicate that to me, and he failed to do so. He did have a hard time deciding to move in, but I never pushed him to, it was his decision. He admitted he didn't know how he could handle living with pets. Once he was in, and I made concessions to make it easier for him... he never complained about pets. In fact he was very caring and kind when the older ones died. He was very sympathetic and tender to me while I grieved their passing. So I never dreamed he intended I would never have more in the future. Anyway, now I'm just justifying my side again which is pointless.

Msmelancoly, your name doesn't match that smiley face at your sig. I hope you more resemble the smiley.
Yes I think bf jealous issue did indeed affect our r. I breached his trust and that tore us right back down to the foundation. I step by step did all in my power to rebuild his trust. I think this tipped the balance in the r tho. I catered to him more than i have ever to any man. I showered him with love & attention. This even probably contributed to his shock and anger when I got the cat despite his feelings. I spoiled him and I enjoyed doing so. This relatively short r was the longest one of his lifetime. He has a history of bailing the moment he doesn't like something in a r. I found it a challange to be the woman that he would stay through thick and thin with. I was determined that I was going to be different. Even to obtain his love was a feather in my cap since he claims i'm the only woman he ever loved. This does say something about me, but I don't know if I fully understand the depths of it's meaning.