Wow... It's been almost 2 weeks since I was here... Gotta lot to update about!
We had a great 4th of July weekend. All the kids were with me and a friend came over and we just hung out at the sailing club. Put the boat in sailed around the lake, boys were using their water guns on the other boats. We had a blast!
W is trying to find out where she wants her life to go from here, so she's trying to figure out where to get a Master's degree in arts, so she can teach arts. Turns out the closest place is at least a 5 or 6 hour drive away, so she would have to move. She keeps me informed about all of this and she tells me that that is too far, so she won't be able to do it. That she's not taking the kids far away from me and stuff. I guess I am glad to hear that, but not sure if she wants us to live like this forever? There's another part to this further down...
All last week the boys day care was closed and we collaborated well taking turns taking care of the boys and working from home. Thursday was the twins birthday and I had them. Got presents on Wed night before W brought them over. W said she didn't have any money so she would get them something on Friday (pay day). I had gotten something artistic for them and when she called to talk to them to wish them happy birthday, I asked her if she wanted to give that to them, since it was more something for an artist to give to them, she said she really appreciated that and yes, she would like to give it to them that night. The boys wanted pizza for dinner, so we went to Pizza Hut in town and we all had a fun time. When we get back in the car, she tells me she really doesn't like that place, that it's dirty and the service was bad. I told her I fully agree, but it was there or drive to the next town (and she didn't get to the house until 7:30 that night) or no pizza... I told her we only go there about once a year and the boys seemed to have a good time so whatever... She agreed with that. Then she tells me how she just really misses living in the southwest (that's where's she's from) and I tell her I love it there also. Then she says that she just thoroughly hates it here now and she's secretly hoping that I'll get a job in New Mexico or maybe Utah because then she would have to move there. Those 2 places are states where we took trips the two of us several years back btw, we both loved it out there. I just said that I wouldn't mind living over there at all! But in my mind I wondering: so you want us to both move there and then what? Live in separate houses there? Just keep moving together but separate? I really don't want to think about what that means too long, but I can't help but detect an underlying message of "we're together", but not in the same house.... yet? Especially noteworthy is that the drive home is about 5 minutes, so she managed to slip in all this "deep" stuff really quick... Lately, she's also been very talkative when she comes by to drop off or pick up the boys. She says she's only staying one minute, but ends up updating me on her health sitch, her work sitch and all kinds of other sitches, other people in her town pissing her off, etc.. This morning she texts me about a frog she found in her apartment, then that she's keeping it to show the boys, trying to feed it... I was kinda busy and responded later.
Saturday, she's calling me to ask me how to decalcify the espresso machine. Told her on the phone and said I would come in for a minute after I drop off StepS 13 to see if it's going ok. W says that would be great. Yesterday, she calls me asking me how to get the correct settings on her camera again. Apparantly, one of the twins had been playing with it and screwed up all the settings.
Anyways, so there it is. It seems like there's a little movement in the sitch, so I'll just keep the course and keep cool...
