yes I am not divorced nor am I going to file for a divorce...I have filed thru the state of Texas for child support...I dont have to be divorced to do that.....I know you are being very honest with your words of advice and I really do appreciate that but I married for life...I do not want a divorce.... but that does not mean IF he decides to work on our marriage it does not mean I will be a doormat either....I know some dont understand in here what or how far I have come with Christ...and my husband does have a free will and that will be for him to decide....but as for me I will stand till I say I am ready to no longer stand..... From here on out it is I who will decide what is best for me and our daughter...you make me sound like I am stupid or something.I know what it looks like but my faith is strong and ...I may never see him return, but I will know in my heart I did the right thing. and yes bibically I have been freed from this marriage, but in my heart at this time I will do what I feel God has told me to do...and that is to wait....dont give up....my plan is in motion....I heard these things in my heart from God while I was in deep prayer and I have to be obedient....call me a christian fanatic...but this is what I believe.....be safe and God bless