Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

If she choses not to go to Retro, then that's a pretty clear sign she's not for Option #1....IMHO.

Yep! ... but...

she just walked in the door, looking like she had been crying a bit. She had been at work for the evening, and then been sitting in the car for a long while before coming in.

I gave her space for a while, then told her that I noticed that she had been upset and asked if there was anything she wanted to talk about.

She had been on the phone with the Retrouvaille hosts. She placed the call.

I asked if she and the host had reached a conclusion, and her reply was "I'm still not convinced it can help. I guess no one ever comes away from it saying "I wish I hadn't done it". I am not looking forward to it. But the are expecting us to come"

So she took action and placed the call, and did not tell the hosts no. Right now she is hesitant, is scared, feels some duress, but is going.

Although I am still looking at the mediation option, I have not mentioned anything to her since Saturday night. I'll let that one sit for a bit.