Well, it's hard to tell about the changing her mind when/if to go to the girlfriend's. A lot of WAW's have this very restless and unstable frame of mind and it's just plain hard to understand.
As far as her wanting you to fight for the M, I would think that she wants to see some type of action out of you if you have been passive.
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She felt like I was her 3rd child. She thought that I was a "nice, docile man." She didn't trust me with money. She'd rather live a life alone with the kids.
When I read this, it told me a lot. No W wants to feel these things about the man she's M to. Every woman wants her man to show some "spunk" and "life" about him. She wants him to make some decisions instead of her feeling as if she has to do it all. No woman wants a "dictator" but she does want a H to call the shots on some things. She wants him to show he's capable of handling money and taking care of the family. She wants to see him "take a firm stand" about things he believes in and not sit back and never have an opinion.
Perhaps I'm not chosing the right words to express very well. Don't mean to sound as if I'm putting you down. People can be passive to a certain degree (I think) before others misunderstand and take that passiveness to mean something negative. Just as an assertive person is easily to be misunderstood.
In what ways do you think you could show your W that you were fighting for the M? Don't you see that being a 180? Could you make some goals that would show steps in "fighting" for a great M? Sounds like you could be onto something here.
Let me know some of your ideas.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
