Sorry to read what you are going through. In many ways, it sounds the same as it has been for me, although my W goes to extreme efforts to conceal and deny what is going on rather being open about her EA (s).
I have had the same thoughts - "How can she be attracted to that Loser?" "This is impossible!" etc.
All I can say right now is "Detach". She has to find her own way out.
Thanks Thinker.
I definitely agree with you on the detachment and am working on it. To be fair to my W, she does take some measures to conceal her communications with OM. She has, however, been very frank with me when we have had our R discussions regarding the OM.
As tough as it is to accept, I also know that ultimately it is up to my W to find her own way out of this mess.
Hey I posted a few questions for you about your sitch with your W back on 6/28. Could you take a look at that and give me some feedback?
Thanks again Thinker.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
