Thanks for the supportive words and advice Gypsy and cville22901 (is that for Charlottesville, VA? I went to school there). I agree that we had some communication problems, as is frequently the case with WAW. As for the enabling/drug addiction, she was an active participant, just not an addict like me. It WAS a big part of our relationship I guess and so now the dynamic has changed, which helps me stay clean and sober. It also makes me appreciate her a whole lot more and really wish we had cleaned up before the break up, but you know how addicts, they often have to hit bottom. Well that's about where I am. At least there is nowhere to go but up. I'd just really like it if we could climb that path together. I have a lot more compassion and appreciation for her and the relationship now. I just think it would be a terrible shame for us to call it quits now that we have quit doing drugs. I should add that no hard drugs were involved, which may be why we didn't recognize it as a problem, though I now do. And that is my impetus for keeping clean. That and the kids.
Separated 40 y.o. man who blames himself for his WAW and hopes to reunite and repair relationship and family.
