A New Decade - Part 2

[MsMelancoly]

After waiting 1 1/2 years & getting D one of my initial goals has finally been met. The goal was for my H to call me. Yesterday, just as I was thinking of calling him, the phone rang & it was him. He was calling to cancel our Sunday meeting because he had a b'day party to go to. It was the owners wife (of the company my XH works for), who has MS. Strange that my X said, I'm not going there to socialize, I'm going there for owners wife because she's a nice woman. What an odd comment. I told him to have a good time. he said wish me luck, so I did.

Then my XH asked if I could get Monday, today, off of work to hang out, because this was his mandatory no pay day off for work. I told him I would check to see if I could get the afternoon off.

I did get the afternoon off & he came over changed my oil & cut down some tree stumps for me. Which was very nice. We then took a bike ride down to the lakefront & hung out there for a bit. It was all very nice. It's so strange that my XH, just isn't as chatty as he used to be (before the bomb). We used to talk about many different subjects, now not so. Still, I enjoy his company.

It's so strange how after all this, you are or can be more conscience of your actions. & still manage to stick your foot in your mouth! When XH was putting the chainsaw back in his car, he came back to get the oil that I had bought him for changing mine. I said, oh you can leave that there & put it in your car later. (I didn't realize he had left his trunk open). So he left the oil & then went back to close his trunk, not even saying he had to go back to his car anyway. After our bike ride, I apologized for telling him what to do & that I shouldn't have. He said that was ok, I said no I shouldn't have told you what to do & I'm working on that. He .... finally .... said that he had to go back & shut his trunk anyway, so he was just going to take it. GgggRrrrrr, why did I open my big trap & just let him do what he was going to??? Why didn't he just tell me ..... I gotta back to my car anyway, so I'll just take it now ....... Sometimes, I just don't understand not standing up for yourself or what you are doing - when it's surely NOT going to cause an argument. Granted, maybe he shouldn't have to explain himself either - but it's just simple communication.

In any case, all seemed fine, we ate dinner, he was tired & ready to get home. I asked him if he wanted to take any of his things - he said, no, but would on Sunday. I'm guessing seeing each other on Sunday, might be our thing again, like pre-dating & dating days?? I thanked him again for the help, he thanked me, we kissed & hugged & he was gone.