Ashlee, I'm sorry you were let down....again. As you were suggested to go to that worst place in your mind.....b/c it is going to get worse, I suspect.
One word of caution before I forget to mention this. You were saying that you made sure to sound upbeat when talking on the phone, and I'm sure you got that advice here and in the DR book. However, I think there is a time & place for being upbeat. That man put you through hell and if you sounded "too" good and "okay" then he'll think he has it made! Know what I mean? He needs to know you are not a happy camper about what he's done. So, just keep that PMA stuff balanced, okay?
About having sex with H.......I think what Puppy meant was that everyone has to make that their own personal decision and you sounded pretty doubtful in the beginning. Even Michele doesn't have a strict rule on that b/c everyone has to do what feels right for them. Some see it as a issue of self-respect and they won't have sex knowing that their S is unfaithful. Some feel that having sex will draw them closer together.
I will say this (in spite of my personal views about it) if you do tell him you won't ML as long as OW is in the picture....then be prepared to stick to your word. If you don't feel that you can be strong in this area, then don't tell him that. Some people cannot go without having sex and some can.....so you have to know what you can/can't do.
Wonder what was going on in his mind when he was waiting to hear if you were staying or not?
I'll check on you later.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
