Thank you for responding Phoenixdeux. Unfortunately, the truth is that she was the breadwinner for the past year (however she was laid off soon before this broke, which certainly put a lot of stress in the situation) and she has already divided the account and moved her paycheck. I am not broke, but I am not employed FT yet (working on that!) I would certainly not finance these trips (I think the OM is - the SOB has her convinced her I am lazy and controlling). Furthermore, she is the leasor on our place (I am listed as a tenant, along with the kids), so she really has me between a rock and a hard place. I am paying the rent now while she stays with family, but she has asked me to vacate at the end of the month. Hopefully, I will have FT employment by then, but if not, I'll have nowhere to go! As you can see, my sit doesn't look very good. All I have going for me is that we were fairly happy together for the first six of our 7 1/2 years together (we were best friends as well as great lovers) and we have two young children that we both care about, and that I truly have changed4good! Drugs are my enemy, forgiveness is my friend!
Separated 40 y.o. man who blames himself for his WAW and hopes to reunite and repair relationship and family.
