She is OK. You can monitor her but ler her cry it out. All you said was you are moving back in your bed. You are stating a boundary, she is having the EA and wants out. She will respect you for this, just hard for you to see. If she starts in on you just calmy state, "Sorry you feel that way. It's my bed and I am going to sleep in it." Nothing further to discuss right now.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Repress the urge to rescue her. It's fine...let her cry. Kind of a double standard that she's fine with you out of the bedroom, but you need to comfort her if she cries? What is up with that? Let her live with the first little blow to this fantasy she had built up in her head.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
I believe the PA/EA has ended. But, she still has feelings for OM.
She is bawling right now. Carrying her things downstairs in front of the kids. Told them I'm making her move downstairs. My 8 year old just came and asked me why i am making Mom live downstairs.
Oh boy.
Me 38 / W 37 M 14 yrs S 11/S8 First Bomb: 3/6/2009 EA Second Bomb: 6/4/2009 PA Same House Separate Rooms
Wife just walked into my home office and called me an SOB for hearing her cry and not coming to comfort her.
let her come to you and you control the dialouge. I like the way Gucci phrases it. "I have decided I am sleeping in my bed."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
lowneil - DO NOT give in. She is trying to make you feel guilty by saying that to the kids. It is HER decision to move downstairs. All you did was move back to the bed where you belong.
Me: 39 H: 39 S: 15 M: 18 years Bomb: 6/3/09 H moved out: 10/15/09 H moved back:5/30/10
My 8 year old just came and asked me why i am making Mom live downstairs.
You are not making Mom live downstairs it's her choice. You just decided you are sleeping in your bed.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
