Trying to balance the legal stuff with trying to DB my wife back is a very big challenge
Not necessarily. I see that alot...people that don't want to make their spouse mad at them because it would be un-DB like. If you are focusing on yourself and your own growth, and your spouse doesn't like it, whose problem is it? One hint, it isn't yours. I don't think being a doormat or being taken advantage of is DBing...it's having a normal break-up. Any most divorces/separations one spouse wants to go and the other wants them to stay. The LBS is the one that is doing the butt-kissing, bending over backwards, and compromising to their own detriment. That doesn't work. It's okay to protect yourself and your children from a spouse that suddenly has a "me first" mentality. You can be friendly, nice, happy, confident, put together, and still protect yourself and have firm boundaries. Her providing for the kids if she isn't going to be primary caregiver is one of those things that really shouldn't be in question just because you are a guy. Deadbeat moms are out there...they just don't get the negative press that they should.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
