On the topic of dysfunction, aren't most of the Rs here dysfunctional? Has no bearing on what I need to do, just wondering. I mean reading about despondent Ss, depression, LBSs living with Ss who are in the midst of affairs for years on end...etc.
I suspect most of these sitches just lead to more heartache even with reconciliation unless the dynamic and underlying issues are really addressed.
Hence the "Focus on yourself" part that we all get told. It's so true.
It also seems to be why we often see the LBS becoming the WAS. In the case where the LBS really really focuses and changes and grows, they then start to really see the problems in the R and become more wary of the changes that the WAS is NOT making.
When (if) the WAS then comes back, does the LBS still want them?
I know I am asking myself this question. Even though my W is not coming back, I am seriously asking my self, if she does, do I want it? Under what conditions? I know others here who are asking themselves the same things.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
