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[mishka422]

I would have to force the issue. Unless there is a complaint filed they don't do anything.

I had taken his key but apparently he kept one. Good grief.

[MichelleLT]

Tough question: since you are struggling so bad financially, why don't you enforce the CS? I mean, I know he can't pay ALL of it, but he's not helping you out at all. What's holding you back from making him face the consequences?

[mishka422]

I just wonder what good it's going to do. pay all of it? He has zero income. What is my percentage of zero? He is a kept man and since he's not M'd to the broom then they can't attach her wages.

Of course, the evil side of me says, "Go ahead and have him thrown in jail. We'll see how much she loves him then!"

[Kalni]

At some point maybe he needs a good scare to get him off his..
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K

Better days ahead sweets, when I get rich, you will be fine!

[MichelleLT]

So it's okay to sit there and threaten to scare Marc, but it ain't good for him eh? IMHO...what's good for the goose is good for the gander! (Of course in this case, it's what's good for the chick is good for the gander!)

[Reincarnated]

You know what, he doesn't have to work because you haven't pushed his responsibilities. He is acting like a spoiled teenager, and getting away with it. Natural consequences would do him a world of good.

You keep getting turned down by agencies you have gone to - haven't they asked what your son's father is providing? Do his parents know that he is such a deadbeat?

Keep the emotion out of it - this is business. And Gabe has a fiscal responsibility to the child he helped bring into the world. I know you don't want to be the one to tell him that he has to grow up - but someone or something has to make an impression on him. He wants Marc to sit in a cell for a few days to get through to him? I think Gabe is the one who needs it more!

[MichelleLT]

I know you don't like to stir things up, that you play peacemaker a lot. But this might be the kick in the a$$ that he needs to get a job and pay the CS.

You are working 2 jobs and still can't get by, it's time for his father to get AT LEAST one job and contribute!

[mishka422]

I know you are all right.

Donna - his parent's are D'd (after 30 years of M and his dad cheating on his mom for years and being an abuser) so they really could care less what kind of deadbeat he is. His mom just tells me to go be happy. Whatever. I don't talk to her except at Christmas anymore.

The agencies don't care that I'm getting no child support. They just say to take him to court but be careful because I could end up with absolutely nothing since he has no job and that ruling would carry until I took him to court again...all at my own cost. Um hello? What part of I HAVE NO MONEY TO DO THAT do they not understand?

Yeah, I'm working 2 jobs and can't get by. Of course not! My full time income (which was reduced 20% this year due to cost cutting) plus my part-time income (which only covers about 5% of what I lost) is still trying to cover all the same exact expenses that my household had with 2 full-time incomes + Gabe's side job money (about an extra $600 a month). That is some seriously fuzzy math! If it weren't for my mom's help I wouldn't have made it this far. The stress of it all is about to kill me though.

I had to renew the car registration today. I had to put it on the one credit card I have because I couldn't pay it all at once. The registration for both cars had come here because he never changed the reg on his car. I gave him his portion and he took it to the tag office to change the address. They pulled both cars and changed the address on both since the other car was in his name also. I just found this out today. Not only did they change the address, they took my name off the registration for my car and left only his! This man pays not one cent of anything and now my name isn't even on the registration for my danged car????? I've had it! I'm so pissed!

I have so much to do today but I need to deal with the CS issue right away. I can't let him get away with this any longer. I frankly don't care what kind of situation he's in. He created it himself!

Ok, rant over, I'm just tired of doing everything alone. I was never equipped to do all of this. I don't like being alone, I don't like being 'independent' whatever the hell that means. Feeling completely cut off from everyone I ever loved is killing my soul.

[Andabelle]

I wish there was something I could do to help... I have an Autistic boy (26) at home, too. I feel so bad for you.

I'd dearly love to kick Gabe's arse.

[Kalni]

I repeat, you need to scare him and be prepared to go all the way. He has NO reason to look for any kind of job if OW pays everything. Would she pay for CS as well? I doubt it. She would be the one making him work if he was about to go to jail... (unless she has figured him out already and she would consider that a favor )
K