Advice please...I am a 40 y.o. father of two whose WAW recently left him for OM. We aren't to the BigD yet, but it is looking that way. Here is the problem; I bear most of the blame. Drug addiction (she was an enabler) and other issues made me painfully dependent and unresponsive to her needs. She expressed unhappiness a few times and even a desire for counseling, which I rejected as an attempt to change me. Finally, she met someone online and lied about taking a trip with a girlfriend when she really flew out to meet him. When she returned she announced that she no longer loved me and wanted a seperation. This was the wake-up call that I desperately needed and I cleaned up, apologized and committed myself to self-improvement. However, this time my pleas for counselling were rejected and now she is out visiting OM again (while I watch the kids). My question is, do I continue to fight for this marriage (I now realize that she is the most important person in the world to me and I'd like to make up for the past) or do I accept that I have blown it and just let her go? And, if I fight for the marriage, what approach should I take? I would love another chance, especially now that I am clean and changed4good, plus we have a history and children. If not, how do I let go. I love her more than ever.
Separated 40 y.o. man who blames himself for his WAW and hopes to reunite and repair relationship and family.
