BTW doodles, don't feel if you change the locks he won't come around in time. When h and I first separated for like 6 weeks I refused to change the locks I didn't want to make him feel bad. Then when I made another attempt last year to kick him out I changed the locks, then he actually knew a trick way to get back in while I was away. This long sep, i didn't change the locks but when he said he's not coming back I asked for the keys back b/c I knew he wanted to come in as he pleased. And I wanted to prove a point. Nw, even without keys, H is coming around. If all goes well and he does right I plan on doing something special when I give him back his keys. Will see.
Not saying that you should change the locks if you'r not comfortable, just letting you knwo if at any point you decide to do that know that it doesn't mean all is lost. He would be upset at first, but he would get over.
