I know how you feel. What have you done to work on detaching?
Well, it has helped to see him more objectively. Focusing on my projects and my kids helps too. Getting clobbered here helps too. Having H tell me about OW sure helped (I am almost certain she is in other country).
What gets in the way? Don't barf but our chemistry on top of all of the obvious reasons to try to avoid divorce. We still have that chemistry when we are around each other. It is so unnerving. Having his attention and his flirtatiousness and his persistent preoccupation with what I think puts the burden on me.
What would help? Clearly enforced agreements. Going to work on that with C.
Dammit, I think I'm done and then I spin..."well, his new place is only temporary"...blah blah blah.
Today, I am going to go through ALL of the bills and let him know how much I need. I need to make lists and knock things off one at a time. Be productive.
