Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[givingitmyall]

Ash,

You sound stronger as each day goes by. Keep it up, and don't worry if you have a down time/day. That's normal.

Hang in there. Praying for you.

[Faith2010]

GIMA-

Thank you. I need all the prayers I can get. I just read Puppy's most recent post on Serenity's thread. It was excellent. He talked about what our Lord went through and how He understands our pain. I need to return to church.

[givingitmyall]

Ash,

I was never what you would call very religious, and I will not ever be someone who wears that on his sleeve. But, I have re-connected with God (started reading the Bible again, devotionals, etc.), and it has provided me with much peace and strength. Anytime I'm having a bad day, I pray for peace and strength, and it just comes.

Very personal decision for everyone, but I know this is the right one for me.

Hang in there, and check your inbox on FB.

[Faith2010]

I'm back home. H texted me on the way "are you coming home today?" I wrote back (90 minutes later) "yes." H texted "are you staying?" I did not reply. H then called but I did not answer.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Perfect!!

[givingitmyall]

Keep it up Ashlee.

[Faith2010]

Thanks Puppy.

I'm going to approach him about no ML tomorrow (or the next time the topic comes up). I'll say something along the lines of: As long as you are emotionally connected to OW and not committed to me and our M vows, I can no longer be sexually intimate with you.

Sound ok?

[Faith2010]

Thanks GIMA! How is your day going?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

If that's truly how you feel, that sounds fine and authentic.

Puppy

[givingitmyall]

Ash,

My day is going pretty well. W has emailed me and IM'd more than usual. And she seems to have something funny/light hearted to say in each. Definitely an uptick in her mood.

This am when I was getting ready for work, it ocurred to me that I may have unwittingly stumbled upon the reason for her positive signs this weekend - I was doing things to help her - helping get things for S's camp, vacuumed the house (usually something she does). I read "The Five Love Languages" and her language is Acts of Service. So, maybe this is the reason for her actions.

But, I can't worry about the why. Game plan stays the same basically, but with a slight modification of doing a little more of what seems to be working.

How are you doing, more importantly, since this is your thread? You sound stronger.