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[dday101798]

Ohhhh,

I did not know Marc was autistic, my apologies and yes, that changes everything.

My s12 was "concidered" to be autistic for quite some time and still is a handful at times due to injuries from XW's first XH.

You are spot on and the only way to handle items such as discipline is through repetition, no other way. So perhpas in some way defending Gabe's question on what to do was to mantain that repitition? Thinking open mindedly as there were many times I'd find I'd do things one way while XW did it another and we were getting nowhere on some issues with S12.

I don't think you can have him incarcerated for failure to pay CS tho?

[mishka422]

Actually, in GA it's the law.

[dday101798]

Daaayum, glad I don't live there.

EDIT- Not like I wouldn't ever pay my support, I even intend to give her her % off the net income of any second job I get, which she says isn't neccessary, but I'm not taking the chance.

[mishka422]

This day just gets better and better....GGGRRRRRRR

I picked Marc up from school and he only had his backpack. He should have had his duffel bag from being at his dad's too. I asked where his other bag was and he said they dropped by the house and dropped it off. I assumed he meant they left it on the porch since house was locked up tight and my mom doesn't get up until around noon so wouldn't have answered the door at that hour.

Marc goes on to tell me that the power steering was almost impossible to turn in his dad's car so they stayed at the house a while and his dad couldn't find the funnel to put the fluid in, etc.. What does he mean Gabe couldn't find the funnel? I just knew there as no way he meant what I thought he meant. So, I asked where his bag was. It's in his room. How did you get in the house to put it away? "Dad had a key." WHAT????? WTF???? He gave me his key. Apparently he had another one? Excuse me? That man has no right to have a key to my house. I need to get it from him but after the blow up this morning I don't want to add to the animosity right now.

Should I let the latest disruption blow over before I tell him that he needs to give me the key to my house?

[dday101798]

Hmmm, that's a toughy as you never know under a emergency situation if it's a good thing he has one or not.

It obviously bothers you, so I would calmly approach the issue. I know easier said then done.

[mishka422]

I thought the same thing. In an emergency it would be good for him to have a key, but then again it gives him too much access to my home.

Rock and a hard place...

[dday101798]

Ok, so can you try to lightly approach the issue? Let him keep the key with the understanding that it for emergency only, and you don't mind he has it if it's only used for that purpose. It may queitly be a sign of good faith?

[mishka422]

I'll think on it dday. I can't imagine him using it just to come in at will, he's not comfortable being there for the most part. It's not like I'm afraid of him, of him stealing stuff, or anything of the sort. It's just an access issue for me. It's like the one thing I can control is who is allowed in my home and with him having that key I can't have that little tiny bit of control over my life.

Does that make a lick of sense?

[kat727]

It makes perfect sense, I took ex's key back again. I never gave him another one but I think he kept one of the boys'. Oh and I don't think it is just Ga that will putyou in jail for not paying child support...good ole Kansas will too. Bet there are a lot more states on that list!

I've said it before, the man is facing no consequences. Maybe it is about time to make that call. I am surprised they don't have a warrant out on him already.

kat

[dday101798]

Yes absolutley it makes sense. Unfortunate for me, XW would just pop in the house whenever she wanted and take whatever she wanted when I wasn't home. So sense legally I could not change any of the exterior locks, I went with the loophole of installing locks on all the interior doors.