W just txted saying "i need to talk to you." she's not ready yet is she? lol, i mean really. this is getting rediculous
Ignore this text. It is YOU that isn't ready yet. Lay low. You are a busy man now remember? Busy men don't sit with their phone in their hand all day checking to see who they had texts from...... "I need to talk to you" is a smokescreen for "you have me wondering if I have lost you and what is up"
You haven't had your "social interaction meeting" with a member of the opposite sex yet....
We have to get this set up correctly to work. Do NOT PANIC... She isn't going anywhere. She is worried that YOU are moving on.
Let's analyze the next quote from YOU...
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last night after a lot of thinking about if i want to be here when she comes to get the dog Wednesday, i think i might.
I don't recommend it. You DON'T want to be there. Remember.. You are busy, you are forgetting things that she wants, your mind is elsewhere... Get it? She WANTS you to be thinking of her and pining away. Now that you aren't, she now is "wondering" (remember that I told you that they have to "wonder" what is going on because it fills their minds with guessing)(you know, like it does YOU when she makes you wonder?)
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if she asks what my deal has been the last few days, i want to use the "i've been doing some thinking. I don't know what i want right now."
Not yet. HOLD THE LINE... If she asks what your deal has been the last few days... " Nothing is wrong. nothing at all. Well, I have another call, talk to you later, bye"... That is your default line for the time being...
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then i want to UNLOAD on her. i am p*ssed at what she has done to me. i want an answer to why she just packed up and left after the day of talking about how she was going to stay and that she loved me so much, blah blah blah. i need an explanation for this. she's been gone how long and she still hasnt' taken the time to even give me one good reason why she did it.
WARNING WARNING WARNING WILL ROBINSON... NO NO NO NO NO... YOU do not want to unload on her. You do not want to ask one thing from her. Remember.. You have done some thinking... You are over it. Doesn't matter anymore. You have your mind on something (or is it someone?) else right now. You don't care for an explanation anymore. Water under the bridge. Maybe it is for the best... No big deal... Nothing to talk about.. We tried and it isn't working.... Do NOT unload on her or ask anything about what she wants or is up to now. You want HER to be asking the questions. (which she is now doing)
It is you that has her chasing you about what YOU want now.
Take care of Tuesday first. Follow the Tuesday plan. If she tries to make plans for Wednesday, just agree with her. That gives you an option to "cancel at the last minute" (they HATE that one) because something came up...
"What is it with you? you tell me one thing and then do something completely different."
I recommend NO replies the rest of today or tonight.......
Let her figure THAT out....
When you finally respond (tomorrow)... You will do the usual WS routine....
"Oh, my phone went dead and I didn't have my charger with me"...
or
"I left my phone at_________(restaurant,bar, friends place?)(fill in your own excuse) and didn't know where I left it.. I just now got it back"
Get tough here. Hold the line.. Remember... Didn't she MOVE out? Didn't she tell you she isn't sure what she wants? Didn't you catch her texting some man for like 1500 texts in a month?
Get real. She is a big girl. She should be able to handle you not responding to you for ONE night shouldn't she? (or should she?.. HEE HEE)
There is one thing I want you to keep in mind that I have been telling others on here for some time now. (few listen though)
This works best when you are having social interaction with a member or members of the opposite sex. She needs to feel that there may be a member of the opposite sex that is now turning your head and getting your attention. Do NOT underestimate the power of competition between two women and one man... This is why she seems to be moving toward you now. Secretly she knows that when a man suddenly stops giving his attention to you, then she immediately "assumes" and suspects there is another woman.
Make sure to have your social interactions in full gear...
gucci, on a side note, i have hung out a couple times with a girl since thursday nite. i haven't mentioned anything on here yet about here, because in a way i do feel guilty. she knows my sitch, and she actually asked my close female friend about me a week ago.
she came into my work thursday nite and wanted to hang out with me after work so we did. i guess i could ask her what she's doing tomorrow nite.... lol, the bad (or good) thing is she's 21 just like my W, and has done some modeling just recently. we hung out together at my M'd couple friend's house thursday nite after work. my friend's W told me the next day she wanted to text MY W, and tell her she's F'ing up bad and she hopes she knows what she's doing. lol, i said don't do that.
please don't get on me about this new girl being 21, she's hot but dumber then a box of rocks. it's painful to even try and carry a conversation with her. i'm so not looking for a new R right now, but could prolly hang out with her tomorrow.
gucci, on a side note, i have hung out a couple times with a girl since thursday nite. i haven't mentioned anything on here yet about here, because in a way i do feel guilty. she knows my sitch, and she actually asked my close female friend about me a week ago.
and your POINT? At least you are honest about it.
Nothing to feel guilty about. It is only social interaction. Just two people socializing.
I would bet that there are more than a few men on this site that are secretly searching the match.coms and the dating.com sites without our knowledge. Then they are coming on here wanting us to help them get their wife back. They aren't fooling the ole Gooch. Behind closed doors without a woman and access to a compuer.. Doesn't take a rocket scientist to know the real truth..... Think they would admit that? I don't.
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please don't get on me about this new girl being 21, she's hot but dumber then a box of rocks. it's painful to even try and carry a conversation with her. i'm so not looking for a new R right now, but could prolly hang out with her tomorrow.
Just social interaction. Nothing more. Of course you are not looking for a relationship. It is just two people talking. Nothing wrong with having friends.
At least you are honest about it.