Wow - you've given me a lot to think about! I think I'll just leave it open-ended and see what he has to say and then go from there. I do like your idea with option #3 of saying I'd like to hear from him what he thinks needs to happen. He had lots of things he raddled off last Wednesday. I also think I'll push him to talk about "action planning" - what's the best way to put these plans into action.
I'm glad I asked to talk to him tonight because I'm not going to pretend like the last 12 weeks never happened and I'm not willing to go on that way.
I'm going back down to the lake this weekend with two of my girlfriends (planned already about a month ago) so that will give him some more thinking time. I'm sure he'll be a little worried because he these are my two best friends who he already thinks I've shared too much with and he also thinks they think he's the biggest "d..." in the world.
I'll let you know how things go tonight. Should be interesting!
