It is strange, but comforting as well, to know we are sharing the same experiences. I'm a bit ahead of you, but it is so nice to know I'm not on this journey alone.
You know you always have a friend in me, Carlos. We'll be able to share stories - good and bad - for the rest of our days it seems.
As for my book, I'm reading the Abs Diet book as I'm trying to figure out how to set up a healthy, consistent diet for now and the future. I'm not going to go w/one of those short-term crash deals, which is why this book is pretty darn good.
Yes, X is going to be her normal self, but I'm feeling good about challenging her when needed to reaffirm boundaries as well as to begin to work w/D in involving other people in my life.
D is afraid she'll be left behind, but that won't be the case. However, I do need to work w/her on understanding that her father will need balance and eventhough there may be another woman in my life that I'll love, she'll always be my daughter and nothing will change that.
My golf game isn't good as I'm living on an extremely tight budget these days. The fact I'm now over $1300 on trying to get my dog healthy has depleted my resources. So, for now, I can only look at the golf course and dream.
Nothing new to report, but that is a good thing. We're doing pretty well. She's got a few things on her plate which has her a bit tense at times, but we've been able to hang out and de-stress each other (and no, Sunshine, the snake's still in the cage).
So, it's good. I'm liking it so far and we'll see how things continue to progress.
Remember when I told you X was acting very civil toward me recently, well, ever since she found out I have a GF, the nice X has gone on vacation.
Today I was scolded via text b/c she said "I was constantly talking about having a fat belly and needing to exercise. Now (D) is obesessed w/not getting fat."
So, as usual, X chooses to take the word of a 6-year-old as the gospel truth, but to my credit, I didn't take the bait.
Instead I replied "we talk about being healthy, not about weight. If you'd like to call me at any time to discuss what we talk about please do so we can be sure to be on the same page."
X replies and is focused on her saying "I always focus on being healthy." Again, I resisted taking the bait and instead said "I wasn't talking about you, but only about what I've learned about a healthy lifestyle and what I'm sharing w/D. Again, feel free to call me at any time if you'd like to talk about this further."
No reply, but I knew there wouldn't be one. Just like when I challenged her on her story that D said my GF called X a liar over 4th of July fireworks. I calmly addressed that one and am completely confident that X is stirring the pot.
Too bad for her that she's so angry all the time. Oh, well. It is her time and her quality of life she's squandering, not mine any more.
There will come a day possibly when a lucky lady is to live with you on a permanent basis and the two of you will be entertained by the overblown spew that comes from your X.
I wonder what it would be like when your X meets GF. Probably cataclysmic like matter coming in direct contact with anti-matter.
Today when I picked up D, I decided to be upfront w/X and talk to her about the text she sent me about talking to D about being healthier.
When D got in the car, I said to X: "Hey, as a favor to me, can we talk about issues like the deal w/healthy eating instead of you sending me a text? It really feels like a lecture to me when you text and I'd much rather discuss things like that w/you in person or on the phone. Thanks."
X said nothing, but instead got pissed off. I called her on it, stood up and asked to be treated w/some decency, and her response was to become angry.
Again, who is the one who has an issue w/control here? I'm accused of it from her, but it has clearly been shown that she's the controlling one and always has been.
