It is interesting to see how the one who claimed she was being controlled is the one doing the controlling. The one who said she was verbally assaulted is the one on the verbal offensive.
Parallel lives again. You are the enemy b/c it is easier to blame you than it is to look inside at their own issues.
You did an excellent job of not letting her words allow you to rise to anger. You walked away. How did she react? By trying to suck you back in w/kindness the next time she contacted you.
I also understand how much $$ you've poured into everything as I too have found myself in financial ruin and staring bankruptcy in the face. It is real, but in hindsight, this was my choice to try and do all I could to save our M.
The only problem is it took me far too long and far too much $4$$ to realize that I was the only one who wanted to do any work in our relationship. I was the only one fighting and I was in fact fighting myself.
So, in looking back, I could have saved myself a ton of grief, energy and money if I'd have been able to clearly see the true person I was dealing with sooner. I continued to cover up for her behavior and it cost me. I wanted to see the good and believe and I lost big-time because of it.
You, my friend are doing the same thing. Don't feel badly about it b/c not only is it a wonderful opportunity to grow, change, and become better, but it is a true sign of your heart, your compassion, your committment and the type of man you truly are. You should be commended for your efforts and they will only help to make your life much more complete as you move ahead.
Now if we could only get someone to refund a bit of the spent funds, eh?
