W just txted saying "i need to talk to you." she's not ready yet is she? lol, i mean really. this is getting rediculous
Ignore this text. It is YOU that isn't ready yet. Lay low. You are a busy man now remember? Busy men don't sit with their phone in their hand all day checking to see who they had texts from...... "I need to talk to you" is a smokescreen for "you have me wondering if I have lost you and what is up"
You haven't had your "social interaction meeting" with a member of the opposite sex yet....
We have to get this set up correctly to work. Do NOT PANIC... She isn't going anywhere. She is worried that YOU are moving on.
Let's analyze the next quote from YOU...
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last night after a lot of thinking about if i want to be here when she comes to get the dog Wednesday, i think i might.
I don't recommend it. You DON'T want to be there. Remember.. You are busy, you are forgetting things that she wants, your mind is elsewhere... Get it? She WANTS you to be thinking of her and pining away. Now that you aren't, she now is "wondering" (remember that I told you that they have to "wonder" what is going on because it fills their minds with guessing)(you know, like it does YOU when she makes you wonder?)
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if she asks what my deal has been the last few days, i want to use the "i've been doing some thinking. I don't know what i want right now."
Not yet. HOLD THE LINE... If she asks what your deal has been the last few days... " Nothing is wrong. nothing at all. Well, I have another call, talk to you later, bye"... That is your default line for the time being...
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then i want to UNLOAD on her. i am p*ssed at what she has done to me. i want an answer to why she just packed up and left after the day of talking about how she was going to stay and that she loved me so much, blah blah blah. i need an explanation for this. she's been gone how long and she still hasnt' taken the time to even give me one good reason why she did it.
WARNING WARNING WARNING WILL ROBINSON... NO NO NO NO NO... YOU do not want to unload on her. You do not want to ask one thing from her. Remember.. You have done some thinking... You are over it. Doesn't matter anymore. You have your mind on something (or is it someone?) else right now. You don't care for an explanation anymore. Water under the bridge. Maybe it is for the best... No big deal... Nothing to talk about.. We tried and it isn't working.... Do NOT unload on her or ask anything about what she wants or is up to now. You want HER to be asking the questions. (which she is now doing)
It is you that has her chasing you about what YOU want now.
Take care of Tuesday first. Follow the Tuesday plan. If she tries to make plans for Wednesday, just agree with her. That gives you an option to "cancel at the last minute" (they HATE that one) because something came up...
