Thanks 25. I had a good day. Had to send H an email regarding the upcoming move. I had written like 6 paragraphs with all of the aforementioned issues and I just deleted them and stuck to the issue at hand.
I wouldn't mind having him acknowledge that certain events occurred as it could be helpful. But for now, my instinct and challenge is less words and more action.
Good luck getting him to drop his revisions and see things for real....yeah, let's spend LOTS of energy on that....
Too bad EVERY little f*cking thing reminds me of him, us, our family that is no more, etc. It is brutal out there...even saw a movie with someone in the wedding scene that was actually at our wedding...aargh.
The semi-good news is, HE is reminded of more things than you know. [i]When the other people's kids are laughing and playing and wrestling, even with HIM, he'll know 2 kids who aren't with him doing the same. Eventually as you GAL, he'll know they are not in bed waiting for HIM to show up and play, but that they ARE playing and laughing and having fun...but he's the one missing out...ANd when he hears a song, or sees a wedding or film piece --his amnesia isn't total. Especially when you are not around and he can get some space...and he can feel and he can remember and feelings will re-surface. No parental voice from you will shut out his inner voice. If he doesn't have one anymore or shuts it down better, then thank God you know now... [/i] But, overall a good day.
I want to buy a book I read about called "Get out of your mind and into your life"...written especially for me.
I hope you had a nice day too.
I did. We argued but it became productive if you KWIM. Anyhow, keep in touch and keep us all posted. When is the big talk with the kids happening?
((( j )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
