Over the Shock and GALing 6

[AlexEN]

My question to you would be whether you want to pursue this path whether or not she goes to Retro? If she went to retro, I don't know how you would assess how long you want to give it to see if it "takes". Others probably far more familiar with that.

It's an interesting idea to pursue Retro and Mediation in parallel. This would ensure that when we are going through Retro we both have a very clear idea of the consequences associated with the alternative.

I think that makes a lot of sense.

Will be interesting to see what others have to say about it...

Some may feel that it ties the two too closely... That is, would you want her to work on your marriage because she fears the consequences more than she wants to work on the marriage because she wants to work on the marriage (which she may or may not want to do)?